Stop guessing with women. Start choosing.
I'm MLD. I work 1-on-1 with a limited number of men to fix the four things behind every dating life: Money, Muscle, Game and Frame. More options first. Then the right woman.
Apply for 1-on-1 coachingFree · about 5 minutes · I read every application myself.
Don't trust me. Trust my clients.
Real messages and photos from men I've worked with, shared with their permission. The women's faces are blurred for their privacy, and every crop is marked ✂.
I don't post these to brag. I post them because the #1 thing men tell me before they apply is "I'm not sure it'll work for me." Fair. Here's what it looks like when it does.
Planning to move her up here once the time comes.
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Hey man, just wanted to shoot you an update since I've been pretty quiet in the group. I spent December in Mexico and spent a lot of time with this girl. I met her back at the end of 2022 and stayed in touch since. I'll be travelling back and forth to see her until she finishes up her studying in Mexico City. Planning to move her up here once the time comes.
I wouldn't have gotten here without your guidance & strictness.
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Hey man, I just wanted to reach out and say thank you so much for guiding and teaching me these past few years. The girl who I'm talking to handmade all of these and gave them to me since I like purple. She's got a crazy good heart and is already obsessive with me / I wouldn't have gotten here without your guidance & strictness. I deeply appreciate you & all of you've done. You're an absolutely great man & are doing gods work. Thank you so much brother, […]
Free to apply. If I can't help you, I'll tell you.
I was pretty much expecting her to ghost me after that last response. But your text pretty much did magic lol!
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[app screenshot] Her: "Hi! Yes I am unfortunately so I guess I'm too far haha" / "This week was a bullshit week at work so now imma go drink for saint Patty's day with coworkers to blow off steam loll hbu??" / Sun, Mar 15 6:52 PM (sent): "Hey sorry to hear that, I hate it when I have bullshit weeks from work. I will say my weeks been pretty awesome. I just got promoted at work so I'm riding high. Maybe I can send some good vibes your way. Text me and tell me what happened! [phone number]" / Yesterday 10:04 PM Her: "I'LL TEXT YOU TOMORROW BUT OMG CONGRATS!!!" / "I was pretty much expecting her to ghost me after that last response. But your text pretty much did magic lol!" (10:52 AM)
Results vary. These are individual experiences, not a promise or a prediction of your results. Yours depend on your starting point, effort and consistency.
You don't need more tips. You need to get out of your own way.
In 418 written answers about what's holding them back, the most common answer wasn't looks, height or money. It was their own head.
Source: MLD application and survey data, 2022–2026.
Overthinking. Talking yourself out of it before you've even said hello. Not knowing what to actually say. Being the nice guy she forgets. Watching all the other guys "get it" while you wonder why you don't.
None of that gets fixed by another video. Including mine. It gets fixed by someone who sees your blind spots and doesn't let you hide from them.
From an MLD application or survey“I overthink and talk myself out of things in my head before I even try.”
From an MLD application or survey“I know what I'm supposed to do but I can't take action, and end up sabotaging myself.”
From an MLD application or survey“What to actually say and how to keep the convo going with concrete examples”
From an MLD application or survey“I've always been the "nice guy" and pretty much get friend-zoned from it.”
From an MLD application or survey“My biggest disappointment is that I'm 40 and still haven't gotten this part of my life handled.”
From an MLD application or survey“I'm pretty much lost to the modern game and need to learn from the best.”
What it sounds like on the other side:
It helps me to get out of my own head and focus on the person in front of me
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It has helped me to become not only more aware of the body language of others, but also to be more self aware and stoic. It helps me to get out of my own head and focus on the person in front of me (date, coworkers, etc.), all while making sure I am not “showing my cards”. / The facebook group is tremendously helpful, since a lot of the guys have “been there, done that” and have insight into situations you might be in or details you might have missed.
Your dating life is the result. Money, Muscle, Game & Frame are the cause.
Most dating advice is Game: what to say. That's one pillar. If your money's a mess, your body's an afterthought, or you fold the moment she tests you, lines won't save you.
Money
Financial stability, so you're building instead of scrambling. A man with a plan carries himself differently.
Muscle
Training, nutrition and sleep. Your health is the one asset you can't buy back once it's gone.
Game
Meet women anywhere, know what to say, read her signals, lead the date. Charisma is a skill, and skills can be trained.
Frame
Boundaries and self-respect. The calm that holds when she tests you, and standards worth respecting.
Money, Muscle, Game & Frame starts with accountability. That's what I'm here for.
Before / After
After, he was able to go on dates with far more beautiful women.
Individual result. Fitness results vary with training, diet and consistency.
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After, he was able to go on dates with far more beautiful women.
Ended up with a lot more than that (fitness, finance, nutrition)!
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I took that course to get more dating tools and get a better understanding of people body language. Ended up with a lot more than that (fitness, finance, nutrition)! There is no price on being part of a community of men that push to be great.
Results vary. These are individual experiences, not a promise or a prediction of your results. Yours depend on your starting point, effort and consistency.
Tell me which pillar is your weakest. That's where we start.
Four steps. No guesswork.
Most men who apply to work with me have never hired a coach before. So here's the whole process, start to finish.
- 1
Apply
About 5 minutes
Tell me where you are with work, fitness and dating, what you want 12 months from now, and what's in the way. Be honest. It shapes everything.
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I read it myself
Every application
If I think I can help, you'll get an email to book your application review call. If 1-on-1 isn't the right move yet, I'll tell you straight and point you to the $150/month group.
- 3
Application review call
See if we're a fit
We go through your situation and lay out exactly what we'd do. If it's a fit, you'll get the package and the investment on the call. If it isn't, you'll know that too.
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We get to work
12 weeks + onboarding
A plan across Money, Muscle, Game & Frame, and me in your corner holding you to it.
Jonathan is a social sniper.
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Jonathan is a social sniper. He’ll dig very deep into your psychology very quickly. He’ll figure out what you’re struggling with and find out things you might not have known about yourself. Then him and this community will build you up to where YOU WANT TO GO. Money help, fitness help, social help, it’s all in good direction as so long as you want it. It’s a positive group, they will help you too. We’re all here to be men.
I had a private coaching call with Jon, and he helped me with a family issue that has been bothering me for awhile.
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I'm was in the MEN 2022 just recently, it helped me decide on a game plan to get myself to 100000k a year. Also I had a private coaching call with Jon, and he helped me with a family issue that has been bothering me for awhile. In addition, […]
Results vary. These are individual experiences, not a promise or a prediction of your results. Yours depend on your starting point, effort and consistency.
Step 1 is free and takes about 5 minutes. No card needed.
Your plan, built around your life. Not a course.
Here's what 1-on-1 covers. On your call, you'll hear which of these matter most for you, and in what order.
Every man's plan is different. A 29-year-old engineer who freezes on approach needs a different first month than a 45-year-old coming out of a divorce. Here's the full menu.
Money
- A clear plan for your income and career
- spending, saving and building a base, so money stops being a source of stress
- business and career decisions talked through with someone who built his own business.
Muscle
- Training, nutrition and sleep set up around your schedule
- style and grooming that fit the man you're becoming.
Game
- Where to meet women in your city and on your schedule, including cold approach and apps
- what to actually say: openers, conversation, texting
- reading her body language and signals
- leading the date, and knowing when to go in for the kiss
- dating profiles and photos that get replies.
Frame
- Overthinking, approach anxiety and self-sabotage
- holding your frame when she tests you
- dropping the nice-guy habits
- choosing the right woman for a relationship when you're ready.
What's included
- A 12-week program plus an onboarding week
- A baseline assessment and a written plan across all four pillars
- 1-on-1 coaching with me, built around your schedule
- Texting help: send me the chat, I'll tell you what to send (like the March 17 result above)
- Date debriefs and feedback
- Dating profile and photo review
- Body Language Mastery and Dating App Domination included
The 12-week program
One onboarding week, then twelve weekly themes. We adjust the order to your weakest pillar.
- Week 0
Onboarding and your baseline
A home-base audit and an honest baseline across Money, Muscle, Game & Frame. Your personal standards, your city's dating landscape, and a plan built around your life. Body Language Mastery and Dating App Domination are assigned.
- Week 1
From first hello to a great date
Pacing and timing, telling your story well, and leading naturally from a first conversation to a longer date.
- Week 2
Texting that sets dates
Knowing your market, a quick-start on looks and fitness, and texting reviewed line by line: how to keep it moving and set the date.
- Week 3
Dating apps
Profiles and photos that get replies, and how to make the apps work for you.
- Week 4
Meeting women in real life
Day, night and everyday social confidence. Comfort builds trust, and trust builds attraction.
- Week 5
Date planning
Venues, logistics and showing up at your best: your space, your style, your grooming.
- Week 6
Screening for quality
Recognizing character, compatibility and respect early.
- Week 7
Setting the tone
How your frame shapes the way a relationship feels, and how to lead it calmly.
- Week 8
Inner game
Beliefs, self-talk and a track record of wins that makes confidence real.
- Week 9
Dating with options
Managing your time and your calendar with honesty and respect while you date.
- Week 10
Dating abroad
Traveling and dating internationally, smart and on a budget.
- Week 11
Choosing a high-quality partner
What to look for when you're ready for something serious.
- Week 12
Long-term balance
Keeping your whole life on track once you've chosen your path.
The exact mix depends on your package. We'll set it on your call.
Whatever your excuse is, one of these guys had it too.
Longer stories from men in my earlier programs. The program and year are on every card, so you know exactly what you're reading.
I turned out to be the groups most senior guy at age 55.
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If there's one word to describe Body language mastery, its VALUE, initially I wasn't thinking about taking the course because I had always been successful with women when I was single. After 18yrs of marriage and being newly divorced in January 2019 , I started to consider taking it. The closer the deadline got the more I convinced myself. I thought why not take this course it would only add to my skills. why not have more weapons in my dating arsenal , so I contacted Jon MLD the night of the deadline, after talking to Jon about the course I pulled the trigger, I'm so glad I did. Body language mastery was a good investment not only in myself, but in the group of Red Pill men that I met striving to improve themselves, after watching the video modules and learning the signs & signals women give off , I couldn't help seeing the signs everywhere. Jon worked tirelessly , he genuinely cared and gave advice like a good older brother , tough and straightforward with those who needed it. The Guest speakers included Rollo Tomassi, Donovan Sharpe, Rich Cooper, Afi Kingdom, Rian Stone, UFC fighter Jon Fitch , they all gave time and Valuable advice. My fellow participants helped each other and gave constructive input. another great value.I turned out to be the groups most senior guy at age 55. So guys don't let your age deter you from taking the course. I gave advice to guys happily, being a ladies man before marriage. I'm very happy I enrolled in this course , I've met some great guys with similar beliefs. I got to see how knowledgeable and cool Jon MLD really is. I would tell anyone interested in this course .sign up , you wont be disappointed. great value. I'll be attending quarter 4. see you […]
Recently divorced out of a 13 yr relationship and this course has gotten my life back on track.
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This course has changed my life. I'm the type who is Alpha when single and then go Beta in a relationship. Didn't know I was screwing up in that way until the content and conversations in this group. Recently divorced out of a 13 yr relationship and this course has gotten my life back on track. It's a work in progress for me, and this course helped me skip the line to get there faster. You don't just get the body language instructional videos, but you get access to this men's group who are all of the same mind of killing it financially, working out, and […]
I avoided dating and dreaded interacting with women all together for years.
I have been talking to more girl in 2 days that I have been in the last year.
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I have always been hesitant to spend money on any course online but after watching MLD's work and seing him interacting with the other man in the sphere, I had a good feeling about him and decided to take a leap of faith. Best decision ever. The course itself is very valuable. You'll learn cues and behaviors which tells you if a woman like you or not. Not only you will learn them, but once you experience it in real life, you'll internalize it and won't be able to unseen it ever. "A-ha" moment after "a-ha" moment. But to be honest, this is not even the most valuable aspect of MLD's course. It is the endless hours of webinar and consulting you get (with him and other members of the group) which makes it worth more than what you actually pay. I avoided dating and dreaded interacting with women all together for years. Just some irrational fear that have been holding me be back for the longest time. Now, I have figured out it is actually fun to talk to them, tease them, and be playful with them (and understanding they actually like it too). I'm still far away from being top tier in the dating world but I have been talking to more girl in 2 days that I have been in the last year. This is what this group of men sharing note can do for you. If you are the kind of guys who have been consuming redpill content for a while but never actually act on it and you are ready and willing to move forward with your life, this is what you need. The course, but most importantly the group of men you have access to, is the little push, the little extra pat on the back to go over whatever is holding you back. And if it is about money...Stop complaining, you'll make it make it back. What you cannot take back is the time you are wasting being preoccupied about women. Take the course.
it made me feel this sense of calmness that I already knew she was into me so I could just be myself.
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Jon and the MLD group tell you what they think straight up to help you achieve your goals. I didn't even care about the Body Language videos at first, I just wanted a place to discuss my thoughts and to learn with other Red Pill guys. After the Q3 webinars were finished I decided to try dating again. I got more matches online with the tips they provided in the group. I thought it would be smart to watch the videos befor[e] going on a date. Within the first couple minutes of the date, she did motions with her arms, hair, and smiling that I noticed from the Body Language Mastery course videos. Not only did it give me confidence, it made me feel this sense of calmness that I already knew she was into me so I could just be myself. 20 minutes after the date she was texting to ask when she could se[e] me again. This is next level. Jon even warns you in the videos that once yo[u] see this stuff its permanent, you'll never be able to unsee this. The videos are very concise and direct. You can also watch the[m] as many times as you want. I also found the webinars to be extremely informative, with a ton of experienced speaking guest[s] to answer all of the groups questions. I also plan on meeting up with guys from the group at various events in the future. Thanks for everything you've created Jon.
Ironically I was very satisfied with my dating life and actually reached out to Jonathan Mld for help in overcoming limiting beliefs and business advice.
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This course exceeded expectations on so many levels! Ironically I was very satisfied with my dating life and actually reached out to Jonathan Mld for help in overcoming limiting beliefs and business advice. The BLM is merely the beginning and it very quickly became clear that this course is about infinitely more than just improving your game. The true value is in the amazing twice a day webinars and being a part of this amazing group for life. After purchasing this course you will never again have to worry about a feeling of isolation or inability to find other like minded men. Jonathan cuts right through the BS and hashes out every last bit of negativity in your psyche that may be holding you back. Not to mention other top tier men exchanging their precious time to drive home everything you need to be the absolute best version of yourself. World class experts of Fitness, strength and conditioning, multi-million dollar business, game, psychology, meditation, travel, and high performance habits. Jonathan practically FORCES you to level up whether you are scared/ready or not. I don't say this next […]
every time I joined, it inspired me to cultivate a masculine bearing
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Although I couldn't participate in all the webinars due to my other job responsibilities, every time I joined, it inspired me to cultivate a masculine bearing that already serves me when it comes to my day to day interactions with women and my job.
Results vary. These are individual experiences, not a promise or a prediction of your results. Yours depend on your starting point, effort and consistency.
Look, I've been in your shoes.
Founder of Modern Life Dating. Coaching men since 2015. Based in Manila, after 8 years in Tokyo.
I know what it feels like when the world seems to judge you for every little thing you do. It sucks.
I began my career as a high-performance coach. Now I help men build Money, Muscle, Game and Frame, because that's what actually changes a man's dating life.
I'm blunt. Some guys don't like that. The ones who do tend to stick around.
This is my life's mission. I'll be doing it for a very, very long time.
his style is not to everyone's taste, though he knows his stuff
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seductive feeding" & "proximity" - two samples from the BLM course. I have been in Jon's community since the start. His content is good. Other books mention body language, however you can not see some things in text or books. Learning from visual clues helps massively. There is nothing out there, as far as I am aware, like this course from Jon. / MLD's course is not the only thing you get from joining body language mastery. There are group coaching webinars and additional group content & mentoring in a private shared online group. / Yes, Jon is selling his course and his 1-1 coaching, this is how he survives it is his livelihood. Yes, his style is not to everyone's taste, though he knows his stuff and he is on purpose getting his content out there virtually everyday online! / I appreciate Jon and what he does 💯
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1-on-1 isn't for everyone. Here's who it's for.
I'd rather lose a sale than waste your money and my time.
For you if
- You want more options with women now, and the right woman eventually.
- You know what to do in theory, and you're done not doing it.
- You're ready to work on money, fitness and frame, not just lines.
- You'll take blunt feedback and act on it the same week.
- You can invest in yourself without putting your rent at risk.
Not for you if
- You want a magic line or a shortcut.
- You'd rather blame women than change your results.
- You can't commit real time each week to the work.
If you are lazy and unaccountable this course is not for you.
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This Body Language Mastery Course is the opportunity of a lifetime. MLD, the guest presenters, and the men of the Hot Dude Army will save you countless hours and help you realize your goals, provided you put in time and focused effort. If you are lazy and unaccountable this course is not for you. Jonathan will set you on the direct path for making money, making muscles, and mastering game. Improve your life, invest in yourself and immerse yourself in the Body Language Mastery Course!
If it's not a fit, I'll tell you, and point you to the $150/month group instead.
What it costs, straight up.
The investment depends on your package. We'll go over it on your call, after I've read your application.
Here's the honest part. I take a limited number of 1-on-1 clients at a time, and I read every application myself.
Refunds: All sales are final. The one exception: once you've completed the full program, you're covered by a 30-day money-back guarantee.
Apply for 1-on-1 coachingApplying is free. You pay nothing unless we speak, it's a fit and you say yes.
It was the best money i ever spent.
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This course will offer u much more than just body language. John gives u access to real men with real solutions. The real value in this course is in the webinars, john makes sure every man gets heard, and more important, gets help. John connected me with someone to help in an area of my life that i never imagined would be brought up in the webinars. Lastly, and most important, i can tell john genuinely loves what he does, the men in this group give genuine advice to help dudes. It was the best money i ever spent. Do urself a favor and dont hesitate. You wont regret it.
Not ready for 1-on-1?
Join the monthly group: two live Zoom calls a month, the Telegram group and direct access to me, for $150/month.
Join the $150/month group →Straight answers.
If your question isn't here, put it in your application. I'll answer it on the call.
How much does VIP 1-on-1 cost?
The investment depends on your package: how long we work together and how much access you get. You'll get a recommendation on your application review call, after I've read your application. If 1-on-1 isn't in your budget right now, the monthly group is $150/month and a solid place to start.
What exactly do I get?
A 12-week program, plus an onboarding week, built around your life: a baseline assessment and a written plan across Money, Muscle, Game & Frame, texting and date feedback, dating profile and photo review, and my Body Language Mastery and Dating App Domination courses. Your exact package is set after your call.
I watch your YouTube for free. Why pay for coaching?
Videos tell you what to do. Coaching finds what's stopping you from doing it, fixes your specific situation, and holds you to it. Most men have an action problem, not an information problem.
I've never hired a coach. How do I know this will work for me?
You're in good company: most of the men who apply to work with me have never hired a coach. Applying doesn't lock you into anything. On the call you'll hear exactly what we'd do and whether we think we can help. If we don't, we'll say so. Results vary, and they depend on the work you put in.
I'm busy. How much time does this take?
We build the plan around your schedule. Busy men often get the most out of coaching, because they stop wasting time on what doesn't work.
Am I too old? I'm divorced, or I've been out of the game for years.
Rick joined one of my programs at 55, newly divorced after 18 years of marriage. About a third of the men who apply are 35 or older. Being out of the game for a while is one of the most common reasons men come to me.
I'm shy, I freeze, I overthink everything. Can you help?
That's the most common thing men tell me. Overthinking and self-sabotage are the #1 problem in my applications. We work on it directly: what's going on in your head, and what you do in the moment.
Is this about dating a lot of women, or finding a wife?
Both, in that order if you want. My approach: meet a lot of women, get good at dating, then choose the right one for a relationship when you're ready. Some men want options; many want a wife and a family. We build the plan around your goal.
I live outside the US. Can we work together?
Yes. About a third of my applicants live outside the US. We'll set call times that work for your time zone.
What if I'm not accepted?
I'll tell you why and point you to the monthly group: $150/month, two live Zoom calls a month, the Telegram group and direct access to me. You can start there and move up to 1-on-1 anytime.
Do you offer refunds?
All sales are final. The one exception: once you've completed the full program, you're covered by a 30-day money-back guarantee. 1-on-1 coaching is time and attention, delivered live, and once it's delivered it can't be taken back. That's exactly why VIP is by application: I only take men I'm confident I can help, and you'll know on the call, before you pay anything, whether we're a fit. My promise is to deliver everything in my power to get you the results you came for. My pride is on the line.
Is my application private?
Yes. Only I and my team read your answers. We use them to prepare for your call, and they're never sold. Details in the Privacy Policy.
Can I just book a single call?
Apply first. If a one-off call makes more sense for you than a full package, I'll tell you.
What happens on the call?
It's an application review call. We go through your answers, your goals and what's in the way, and see if we're a fit. If we are, you'll get a recommendation for your package. If we're not, you'll know that too.
Is this therapy?
It's coaching. I'll help with confidence, frame and the habits holding you back, but I'm not a therapist or a doctor. If you're dealing with something that needs professional care, get it, and we can coach alongside it.
Free · about 5 minutes.
Stop guessing. Start choosing.
Apply for 1-on-1. I'll read it myself, and if I can help you, we'll build your plan together.
Free · about 5 minutes · Private: only I and my team read your application.
Not ready for 1-on-1? Join the $150/month group
I'll put it simply: My only regret is that I didn't join sooner.
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I'll put it simply: My only regret is that I didn't join sooner.
Results vary. These are individual experiences, not a promise or a prediction of your results. Yours depend on your starting point, effort and consistency.